Saturday, June 19, 2021

The Dating Game, 1950's Style - A Binghamton Press Memories Column by Merlin Lessler

 

An Old Coot remembers the Friday night dances at West Junior High.

 It was Friday night, September, 1954. I was a freshman at West Junior High School in Binghamton, NY, having spent my elementary school years on the south side at Longfellow Elementary (PS-13) on Pennsylvania Ave. I had a date for the dance, sort of. With a west side girl, Margaret Kavanaugh. I was just shy of 12 years old, breaking into the dating scene now that I was in a new school with new girls. None of us would date a girl from PS-13; we grew up with them and they were like sisters to us. So, there I was, waiting for Peggy at the gym door, dressed in the uniform of the day – tan khakis, white bucks and a blue oxford cloth, button-down collar shirt. I had an extra quarter in my pocket to pay the entry fee for my “date.”

 Those Friday night dances were the cornerstone of our dating world. Hosted by Coach Holmes and his wife. The lights were down low as 45 speed records emitted rock and roll songs throughout the high-ceilinged gymnasium. Boys were clumped on one side of the room, girls on the other. A few hip couples jitterbugged in the middle.

 The clumps eventually broke apart, as brave boys started venturing to the girl’s side of the room. Some kids knew what they were doing on the dance floor, having learned the fox trot and the box step from Mrs. Quillman at her School of Dance in the Monday Afternoon Club. The rest of us stumbled awkwardly amid yelps from the girls whose toes we stepped on. Fred Astaire we were not!

 We didn’t have cell phones or social media back then, yet communication ran rampant, secrets were revealed in the adjacent boy’s and girl’s locker rooms – “Stu likes Betty” – “Steve and Donna broke up.” Friends (envoys) were sent out with relationship probes, “Johnny likes Brenda, Does Brenda like Johnny?” If the answer was yes, then they were going steady. At least for the next hour or so. This was a pre-teen, boy-girl relationship nursery school. Every so often Coach Holmes announced that the next dance was a lady’s choice. That gesture was much more effective than sending scouts from the locker room to find out if Nancy liked David.  

 Every month or so, the record player was turned off while Ted Urda and his band took center stage and played a few numbers. He wore black clothes and had long hair, the original Fonzie, long before Henry Winkler showed up on Happy Days.   

 By the time we finished ninth grade and entered high school, we were experienced dating machines. Oh sure, still clumsy Martians, but working hard to understand how to deal with those creatures from Venus. Every dance came to a close when “Good Night Sweetheart Goodnight” was played. You didn’t want to be on the sidelines at that point. After the dance, we ambled out of the building. There wasn’t a line of cars out front to pick us up. It was the 50’s. Kids had more freedom and less parenting.

Old Coots always had something to do in the 1950's. A Binghamton Press Memories Column - October 2020

 

An old coot never said “There’s nothing to do”!

 “There’s nothing to do!” - Those words were never spoken when I grew up on the southside of Binghamton in the 1950’s. I first heard them from my two oldest daughters in the late 1960's, as they sat in their toy room, the floor strewn with "Barbie’s" - coloring books - tricycles - wagons and blocks, a TV blasting and a sing-along record playing on a Mickey Mouse phonograph. We didn’t have all that stuff in my day, but we always had something to do. Our problem, was finding enough time in the day to take advantage of the "entertainment" at our disposal, most of all, our imaginations, which easily turned idle time into an afternoon of fun. I played basketball by myself sometimes, but I wasn’t really alone; in my head, I was the American underdog battling the "mean-cheating-Russian commies," coming from behind to win at the last second, in spite of the bloody head and broken arm I’d received from my imaginary opponents.

 At other times, if you peered around the outside corner of our garage, you might spot me with my back to the wall, throwing a screw driver, or a hatchet, into the ground on the steep side hill that marked the edge of our property. In that scenario, I was either a knife thrower in the circus, coming dangerously close to the unblemished skin of my attractive assistant, or an Indian, fighting off an attack from a band of rogue cowboys. Boredom didn't exist with my generation. We were outdoors as much as possible; when stuck inside we were board-game, log cabin logs, blocks and checker fanatics. Birthday parties were relished, not just for the cake and ice cream, but also for the prospect of a "Pin the Tail on the Donkey" game, or better yet, a fast-paced round of “musical chairs.”

 Checkers, Parcheesi, Uncle Wiggly, Monopoly, were among our favorites. So much Monopoly was played at my friend Woody’s (Walls) house that the board wore out and his parents duplicated the image on a piece of plywood, protected with a coat of shellac. Among my favorite memories at Woody’s house are the times we hunkered down on his living room rug in front of their family console radio, playing a board game or building houses with blocks on a cold winter evening with a blizzard howling outside while the exploits of Sergeant Preston of the Royal Canadian Mounted Police wafted through the room from the radio’s 10 inch speaker.     

 Life in those dark ages was good. The “something to do” options offered by my mini-universe were endless. How could it not be so, considering the forty-three playmates who lived in our two street neighborhood (Chadwick & Denton Rd.), on the hill above the “Flats” (MacArthur Park), surrounded by the woods on South Mountain, farm fields to the east and west and an array of interesting venues we conjured up with our imaginations. Like, the roof on my family’s house. It wasn’t just a great place to bounce a tennis ball in a hot game of roof tennis, but it also provided a climbing challenge equivalent to Mount Everest. Woody and I would sneak out my parent’s bedroom window, onto a porch roof (the base camp) and on to the summit via a narrow steep assent past the chimney. It was a great spot to sit and watch the "Norman Rockwell" world below.

 All alone, or with Woody, Warren Brooks or Buzzy Spencer, I spent hours watching life on the block: the Gazda's in their garden, weeding and nurturing a crop of tomatoes, beans and corn, the three Soldo girls skipping rope, Bea Krupa sailing a homer out of the park on "Junk" Street, Mike Almy and Tommy Spagnoletti on pogo sticks, my sister Madeline and her friends playing a hot game of jacks on the front stoop, Bunny Horowitz fastening a piece of cardboard to the fender on his bike with a clothes pin to “motorize” it, the Colavito brothers flipping baseball cards, Bobby Ahearn setting the fields on fire. We did it too, but we never needed the fire department to come and put it out like he did (several times one summer). Nothing to do? I don’t know the meaning of the phrase.